The summer holiday is fast approaching and just when families need it most. Long, bright days, a pause from the school routine, and an opportunity for children to spend meaningful time with those they love. However, for separated parents the school holidays can also bring uncertainty. How will the weeks be split? What happens if one parent wants to travel? And most important how do you make sure the children feel settled and supported throughout?
After more than 25 years working in family law, I have seen how school holidays can either become a source of tension or a chance for parents to demonstrate real co-operation. With early planning and a child‑focused mindset, the summer holidays can be smooth, and a positive experience for everyone.
Plan Early
Last minute arrangements often lead to tensions. Early discussions give both parents time to prepare and avoid misunderstandings.Planning ahead means:
- Children know what to expect.
- Parents can organise work, childcare and travel.
- There is enough time to resolve any disagreements that may arise.
Flexibility is equally important. Summer plans can change as children may become unwell, travel plans may change, or unexpected commitments may arise. A willingness to flexibility will help.
Common Ways to Share the Summer Holidays
There is no “right” arrangement. What matters is that the arrangements are practical and centred on the children’s needs and best interests.
Alternate years
One parent has the first half of the holidays one year, and the other parent has the last half. This arrangement can then alternate on a yearly basis.
Split the holiday
Divide the 6 weeks into one or two week blocks, this can allow for children to spend quality time with both parents.
Shorter Rotation
Weekly patterns usually work, especially for young children or where long separations can be difficult.
Be creative
Have two summer adventures, create new traditions, can work well.
If you need any advice, please contact me on 0121 824 3583 or email at S.Chawdary@davisons.law.
